Part I- Dedicated to College Girls Safety
Hi Ladies! We’re turning to another “Serious” Subject today, so take note. We’ve been asked to write directly to the college girls pertaining to their safety on and off campus.
The Challenge is just saying “no”
Have you ever watched a movie where a female character is sweet and easily persuaded by her boyfriend or
friends to do something she knows is wrong? Her gut says no but her desire to fit in says yes, or she doesn’t want to hurt others’ by saying no. Of course, we all have.
What happens next? Unfortunately, we could all write a book on how this story ends. Innocent, trusting (naïve), people are usually the ones who get hurt.
Deploy Common Sense
On the other hand, it’s not just the naïve people who get hurt, it’s the ones with the wrong mindset; “it won’t happen to me”, type. This mindset means your guard is down and you’re easy prey.
Fact is, in 2019, fitting in and being liked takes precedence over commonsense. It happens in our schools and on college campuses more now than ever before. Thanks, social media for Creating a Monster over our young people!
We’re here to educate girls and get the word out to defeat some of these monsters!
Evil people can be very smart people & attractive!
We all know them. Not necessarily the ones who look creepy or act different; that’s too obvious. Beware of this type too though because they creep and follow you without you even knowing it. All it takes for them to act against you is one opportunity when your guard is down.
The highest percentage of people who commit these crimes are not so obvious to the public. They can be attractive, friendly, fun-loving people with magnetic personalities who become your friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, extended family, acquaintance, etc.
Once they build your trust BAM, they have you. You end up liking/loving them so much, you become hesitant on turning them in to authorities. Exes also rank in this category as well.
One out of every four females will be a victim.
According to the U.S. Dept of Justice, one out of every four female undergraduates will be a victim to some sort of sexual assault before graduation.
Unfortunately, most victims know their assailant, and the vast majority go unreported or unpunished.
Victim Perpetrator Relationship
These Master Manipulators are way ahead of you because you trust them too much, and they know it.
70% of victims don’t report it to the police, and a mere 25% result in arrest.
“It will never happen to me”, you say! You’re too smart.
High five for being smart; but being intelligent doesn’t mean you’re street-smart.
“Re-wire and re-train your brain girls!”
Are we trying to brainwash you? Absolutely! We want you to have fun, but multi-task and stay ahead of the game at the same time. If you want to stay alive or prevent yourself from being the next victim, then keep reading.
Just remember, “THERE WILL BE ANOTHER VICTIM. THERE’S ALWAYS ANOTHER VICTIM”
Simple “safety tips” you shouldn’t ignore:
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1-Never walk alone especially at night or during the day in sketchy places.
- 1–Try to bring a friend or check to see if your school offers an escort program.
- 2–If you must walk alone, be armed with something, “anything”, that will harm an attacker. If you are not allowed to carry a Firearm, Taser, Pepper Spray or Stun Gun because of your age or your local laws then choose the next best options; Koga, Baton, Pocketknife, Monkey-ball, Brutus key-chain, etc.
- 3–If it’s not in your nature to hurt others (defending yourself or not), then you should at least alert others by carrying a Personal Alarm. Whether it’s attached in your key-chain, purse or book-bag make sure it’s close (in hand) just in case you need it quickly.
2-Download a Personal Safety App on your phone, right now.
- 1–There are many Apps available for Android & iphones, so do your research and choose the best one for you.
- 2–No one has time to dial an emergency number when they’re in danger so find one that lets you easily alert emergency contacts and has a GPS tracker too.
Here are a few:
- —iCrisis App
- —Safetipin APP
- —Life360 App
- —Women Safety App
- —Safety -Personal, SOS, Disaster Alerts App
- —Raksha App
Now, it’s time to play Hide-n-Go-Seek!
- 1–Make sure you test your app to be sure it works or it’s not worth having. Go somewhere random, out of the norm and see if it will alert your family or friends and if they can find you.
- 2–Afterwards, add all the contact phone numbers to your App that you want to be alerted in case of an emergency.
3-Assault and/or Control in a Relationship
Ladies this is NOT OK! Not sure what you were taught at home, but YOU ARE BETTER THAN THIS! Sometimes victims don’t realize the dangers until it’s too late.
- 1–If you’ve identified that your partner exhibits aggressive or controlling behavior and you’re afraid to address this to your partner, it’s time to get help or get out!
- 2–Save threatening texts, emails, voicemails and even pictures of any physical abuse. It’s your defense and proof for a counselor or even police to examine if it gets to that point.
- 3–Talk to someone outside of your circle of friends; teacher, counselor, etc., and have a place to go if you need to get to safety. Most campuses have counselors trained in domestic abuse.
- 4–If you’re afraid and unsure how to get away from an abusive partner, contact a support hotline:
Love is Respect.org
Text: LOVEIS to 22522*
Call: 1-866-331-9474
or
The National Domestic Abuse Hotline
4-Gather up the Girls and Take a Self-Defense Class
- 1–Learn to FIGHT LIKE A GIRL, or you won’t have a chance! Literally, fighting against your attacker could be your only defense if you can’t get to your weapon or alarm.
- 2–Check with your college campus to see if they offer these classes periodically.
- 3–Check with Fitness and Martial Arts Centers to see if they offer Self-Defense classes.
No excuses girls, and it doesn’t matter how tiny or out of shape you are either. The more you know about an attacker’s weak points and how to act on them, only heightens your chances of survival against these brutal attacks without injury or even death.
If you follow one or more of these Tip-Off’s, you can add “Preventive Intelligence”, aka Street Smart” to your resume.
You can use your newly found knowledge to save yourself, family and friends by sharing what you’ve learned.
We hope you will stick around and read the next blog too: College Girls Safety Part II: Animal House
